Mastering the Art of an Apology
We have all heard of the classic “I’m sorry it made you feel that way” so-called apology…
Honestly, this is NOT really an effective apology.
We know that for most, apologies are hard to make.
It makes us uncomfortable, have an icky feeling and therefore it is often hard to get the right words. To apologise well, you need to recognise that you were part of the problem, and, that you did something “wrong”.
Often we worry about what our partner will say or do during the apology; Will they accept their part to blame as well??
It’s important to remember that apologising is an act of integrity – it is often the right thing to do. A heartfelt apology does take awareness, thought, and energy.
For a moment, think about what it would mean to you for someone to apologise effectively and sincerely. We can only assume it would make you feel that the person cares about you; that you matter. This is because apologies show compassion and help avoid future misunderstandings.
Now, here are our takeaway tips for an effective apology:
- Bid
- Ownership
- Action
Remember to set aside your need to be right and take responsibility for your actions – apologising effectively may even bring you and your partner closer together.
